What is pornography?

 

Mirriam/Webster dictionary defines pornography:

 

1.Sexually explicit pictures, writing, or other material whose primary purpose is to cause sexual arousal.

2.The presentation or production of this material.

3. Lurid or sensational material.

 

     This is a very sensitive subject to write on because no one wants anyone to know that they are involved in or have been victimized by pornography. There are marriages being ruined due to pornography. Couples are living in the same house but are actually living as though they are separated. They sleep in the same bed, but there is no intimacy, no love making.

 

     What’s even more tragic is that it has infiltrated the church world. Another tragedy is that it is in our pulpits. What is even sadder is that the participants see it as no harm. They say that since there is no actual physical activity going on between them and the person they see on the screen or in a magazine, there is nothing wrong with what they are doing. After all, the bible says that in marriage the bed is undefiled. So since they are not in bed, everything is legal. That’s what they say. They say they are saving their marriage at whatever the cost.

 

     In some cases, it starts out innocent. The couples view the movie and/or visit the internet on the computer together in an effort to enhance their sex lives. What they don’t realize is that in some cases, they are slowly destroying their marriage. Eventually, at some point, they desire to start to partake of what they see on the screen. Before you know it, they bring others into their circle and three-somes are started. After-a-while, three become two and the two are not married to each other.   And what do you know, eventually it only takes one for needs to be met. I say in some cases, not all.

 

This article is not intended to meddle in anyone’s bedroom. It is intended to save marriages that may be headed for trouble. Believe it or not, husbands are leaving the natural use of their spouses for a virtual companion. They no longer feel the need for a physical partner. They can have their needs met by the partner on the screen. Imagine that, they are satisfied by a partner they can’t touch, they can’t smell, they can’t hold.

 

     Let’s first get this out of the way. The word “pornography” is not in the bible anywhere. But it is inadvertently there.

 

Matthew 5:28 says:

   “But I say unto you, that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her

hath committed adultery with her already in his heart”.

 

Because pornography involves “ looking on”,  it "is" implied in the bible as a sin. The sin of adultery. Again, we are not meddling in anyone’s bedroom. However, there is a great concern for the lack of intimacy that married couples are experiencing because of pornography. What I am finding out is that wives are feeling neglected because their husbands are no longer finding them desirable. They are not slim enough, curvy enough, sexy enough, or wild  or kinky enough. And even though they are willing to do whatever their mate desires, they are not given the opportunity to perform the needed act or acts, simply because they don’t look like that person on the screen. Husbands are finding that the virtual partner has more sexuality to them than their spouse. And they explain it a way as, “this is to help us”, “it will improve our sex life”, “be patient with me, it will make our sex life more meaningful”. Having said all of this, eventually, there is no sex between them at all.

Wives are attending parties, buying toys and are not feeling the need for their spouse to fulfill their sexual desires. They too see it as no harm. They too have a fantasy partner to fulfill that need.

 

     Although this article is short and much more could be said, I want husbands and wives to be aware of what is infiltrating their bedrooms and to guard this sacred relationship.

 

I John 2:16 says:

“For all that [is] in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and

the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.”

 

Marital intimacy does not have to cease. Just because pornography has infiltrated the world, we are in the world, but not of the world, and we do not have to be captivated by the things of the world. They are not of the Father, but of the world.

 

Everything good to you ain’t always good for you.  Do not allow a "virtual" partner to destroy your marriage.

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Dr. J. G. Johnson

Issues of Life Conquered

 

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