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OVERCOMING LOSS

 

I have experienced the loss of many loved ones, a brother, sisters, father, and various friends and family members. I experienced the loss of many material things as well. But the loss of my spouse was the most painful loss I ever went through. I lost part of myself. My emotions were all over the place. I went through anger, guilt, confusion, I experienced shock, loneliness, even playing the blame game. One minute I was happy, the next I was sad and in tears. Although these are all normal reactions to the grieving process, I perceived that life as I had known it was over. I actually thought I would never smile again. The pain was so great. How would I ever make it through this most difficult time in my life?

 

Oh, the hurt was so great, but believe it or not, I am now smiling. Don’t get me wrong, I still have my moments, and I am sure that I will still have them through-out my life time. But right now, it feels so good to smile, it feels so good to laugh, to really laugh.

 

While I was going through, I researched the grief process online. I found the steps to grieving very helpful. Through prayer, I have re-grouped the process, including some steps of my own, by using traffic lights, which for me, made it easier to understand.

 

While there is no right or wrong way to grieve, there are healthy ways to cope with the pain. You can get through it. You can be healed from the pain that you are feeling. If you obey the traffic lights, with the help of God, you can get to your destination of healing.

 

 

      

iSSUES OF LIFE ONLINE OUTREACH MINISTRY

RED LIGHT

STOP!

COME TO A COMPLETE HALT!

ON THE ROAD TO OVERCOMING LOSS

ISSUES OF LIFE ONLINE OUTREACH MINISTRY

OVERCOMING LOSS

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

THE GREEN LIGHT

GREEN MEANS GO!

 

The green light:

 

We may have to repeat the red and yellow lights several times before we get a green light. Sometimes while driving along, every red light gets us. Finally, we hit the traffic just right, we get green light after green light. We are now getting some where, we can get to where we are trying to go.

 

Green means GO!

 

At this stage of our recovery, we are ready to go forward. Going forward does not mean that we have forgotten. We have our memories. But let’s face it, we must go forward, we must move from this place of sorrow and despair. We have to say to ourselves, “ this too shall pass.”

 

When the light was red, we stopped denying our feelings and what we were experiencing. When we were at the yellow light, we waited through the anger, through the bargaining, through the what if’s, the depression, and the despair. It was not easy waiting, but we made it. We had to acknowledge a hard cold fact, that life as we knew it is no longer. We must accept the fact that we are headed into a new era and that life goes on.

 

Go! Allow your joy of life to return. It’s okay to be happy again. With the help of God, with the understanding of His great plan and purpose for our lives, with the hope of the future, we can find the strength to overcome the loss, and to move forward into the place God has for us.

 

Word help for when you reach the GREEN Light!

 

I Corinthians 10:13; There hath no temptation taken you but such is common to man, but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that you are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

 

Revelation 21:4

And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes, and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain, for the former things are passed away.

 

Phillipians 4: 7

And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

 

As difficult as it is, God will see you through. Just hold on to His unchanging hands.

 

 

 

Dr. J. G. Johnson

Issues of Life Conquered

 

 

 

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